Do you want more time? Try this! - Reflections Counselling Lincoln - Counselling and Psychotherapy in Lincoln
Do you want more time- Reflections Counselling Lincoln - Jane Travis

Do you want more time? Try this!

Time.  It's such an interesting concept.  

Probably the most valuable commodity we have, but we waste so much of it.   

But what if I was to tell you a really simple way to find yourself more time?


Imagine this:

You're getting ready to go out and your fed up.  

​You wanted a quiet night in with Netflix and wine, but your friend wanted to meet for a chat. You already know it's going to be a one sided conversation as they dump all their stresses onto you and barely even asks how you are. 

Now imagine this: you're asked to meet up with a friend, but you decline, respectfully and politely and without conflict.  

That's an extra 3 hours more time just for you. ​

​Picture this:

You’re asked to go to the cinema to see a film you're not interested in, but say yes because you don’t want to hurt their feelings.

You pay for the car park, buy popcorn and a drink and the ticket (and you know how expensive they are!) and sit through a film you have absolutely no interest in.

Now imagine this: You’re asked to go to the cinema to see a film you're not interest in, so you decline respectfully, politely and without conflict.

That’s an extra 4 hours more time just for you.

Visualise this:

You’re invited to a birthday meal by a work colleague you don’t like, but say yes because you don’t want people to think you’re rude.

You pay for the car park and the meal, and make tedious, boring small talk until you can escape home again.   ​

Now imagine this: You’re invited to go to a birthday meal by a work colleague you don’t like, so you decline respectfully, politely and without conflict.

That’s an extra 5 hours more time just for you.

In just those 3 examples, you’ve gained 12 hours

12 hours!

What kind of difference would more time make in your life?

What would you do with extra time?​

I wonder how many times you've wanted to do something, but can't because you're 'too busy'?

Time is what we want most, but use least - William Penn

Maybe you've wanted to take up a hobby, like photography, or leisure activity like dance classes.

Maybe you'd like to take up a cr​aft like sculpting, or something musical, like singing in a choir or learning an instrument. 

Maybe you're irritated every day by the state of your wardrobe but never get the time to sort through and de-clutter it. 

Maybe you'd love to start a decorating project, or a gardening project but just can't find the time.

Or maybe, you just want to use the time to relax, to read, to meditate, to write, to just chill and enjoy life.

​So if you want more time and there will only ever be 24 hours in a day, saying no to the things you don't want to do is the way forward. 

It sounds so easy, doesn't it - just say no to people.  And for some people it is - very easy!

But for many people, saying no is really difficult.  Fears around being rude, hurting peoples feelings, being thought badly of and ultimately rejection all make saying no feel ​impossible.

The good news is, it's something you can learn.   

  • You could read a book like 'When I say no, I feel guilty', which I highly recommend. It talks you through different scenarios and shows examples of how to use the techniques
  • You could take the course 'Take Control: Say No!' which ​is from my sister site, which will totally change how you feel about saying no to people, making saying no easier than you ever thought possible, looking at concepts like guilt, selfishness and responsibility.
  • Or you can talk to me, and together we can explore the difficulties you have saying no, so you can start considering your own needs. Just CLICK HERE and drop me a line, I'd love to hear from you.

Saying no is a fundamental communication skill that will aid you at work, in relationships, and frankly is all situations, enabling you to take back control.  

If enough is enough and you're ready to make the change try one of my suggestions above. 

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About the Author Jane

Jane Travis is a qualified and experienced counsellor and clinical supervisor in the Lincoln area. She has been working at Reflections Counselling Lincoln since 2005. She is also The Happiness Enabler, and runs Lincoln Counsellors Network.

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