As we put away the Christmas decorations for another year and put the unwanted gifts on eBay, it’s a great opportunity to think about how your Christmas was and think about how you would like next Christmas to be.
Maybe it was everything you hoped it would be, or a time of tension, loneliness and boredom. Maybe it was frankly a disappointment which has just left you feeling exhausted and worried if your credit card will get you through January?
Here is something very simple you can do to make your next Christmas the Christmas you’d really like to have.
Get your journal or pen and paper and finish off that last mince pie as you sit and reflect on the Christmas you just had.
Firstly, what were the good points? People arriving? People leaving? Did you enjoy seeing friends you haven’t seen all year?
What were the bad points? Enforced time with family? Enforced time alone? The drain on finances? Family members being critical?
Now, think about what you could do to make it the Christmas YOU would really like. Maybe you would like to be laid on a beach, or alone with your partner, or alone completely on a day of self indulgence. Maybe you were alone this Christmas and don’t want to be next year.
Christmas is a time of traditions and expectations, so the key to making changes is give people plenty of notice and time to adjust their own expectations.
Jane Travis is a qualified and experienced counsellor and clinical supervisor in the Lincoln area. She has been working at Reflections Counselling Lincoln since 2005. She is also The Happiness Enabler, and runs Lincoln Counsellors Network.