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How to get more sleep - Reflections Counselling Lincoln - Jane Travis

How to get more sleep

How did you sleep last night? Was it a solid 8 hours and you woke refreshed and ready to face a new day?

Or did you wake up already tired and feeling grumpy?

Sleep is vital to both our physical and mental health, and I bet you already know how difficult it is to function after a late night or a night spent tossing and turning.

So how can you get more sleep?

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Christmas survival guide- 10 blogs to help you survive Christmas - Jane Travis, Reflections Counselling Lincoln

Christmas Survival Guide

Christmas is galloping towards us at an alarming rate, and love it or hate it, there's no escaping it.

So here are 10 blog posts full of useful ways you can make your Christmas the best it can be, whatever your circumstances.

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Christmas survival guide day 10- New year new you-- Jane Travis, Reflections Counselling Lincoln

Christmas Survival Guide Day 10: New Year New You?

New Year Resolutions

​New year resolutions: because January simply doesn't feel bleak enough!

Now I'm not against making new year resolutions, but I am against the punishing nature of most of them: give up something you enjoy, or starting to do something you don't.  

Pah!  It should be the other way around!

I mean come on, is that how you want your year to be, denying or punishing yourself?

I prefer something a little more gentle, a little more kind. Something more to do with empowerment, self love, acceptance.

So here are some new year resolutions to make you feel go​od.

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Christmas survival guide day 9- 7 Ways to beat the post Christmas blues - Jane Travis, Reflections Counselling Lincoln

Christmas Survival Guide Day 9: 7 Ways To Beat The Post Christmas Blues

Christmas is over for another year, and as you pack away the decorations you sigh - the house looks so empty!  It seems dull and cold - in fact after all the build up to the big event, everything seems flat.

So just diets, painful exercise, no money, work and dark, cold weather to look forward to. 

Jeez, that sounds bleak!  

How can you fight off the post Christmas blues?​

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Christmas survival guide day 8- Having a mindful Christmas - Jane Travis, Reflections Counselling Lincoln

Christmas Survival Guide Day 8: Having A Mindful Christmas

Your guide to slowing down

Does Christmas ever feel...well, rushed?  A to-do list a mile long, battling through traffic, stuffy shops, crowded supermarkets, then the annual terror of getting the Christmas decorations from storage and hoping they haven't become a home for spiders <shiver>​

There's clearing a years clutter from the spare room ready for guests, parties to attend, nativity plays, cards to write, presents to wrap, Christmas fairs...look, I could go on, but just writing that's made me exhausted!

Not only does all that sound like pretty hard work, ​it's really not very magical. 

So let's get the magic back. ​

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Christmas survival guide day 5- 3 ways to deal with overeating at christmas - Jane Travis, Reflections Counselling Lincoln

The Christmas Survival Guide Day 5: 3 Ways To Deal With Overeating At Christmas

How do you deal with overeating at Christmas?

It's easy to overeat at Christmas.  Expected, even.  I mean, you've been given permission - it's officially a feast time. 

And as you lounge about watching TV, you're inner monologue goes 'Just one more Chocolate, and then I'll stop.  Definitely, this time.  Mmm...that was yummy.... ok, one more, then that's it...'

Sound familiar?

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Christmas survival guide day 4- Coping strategies for introverts - Jane Travis, Reflections Counselling Lincoln

Christmas Survival Guide Day 4: Coping Strategies For Introverts

Coping strategies for introverts at Christmas 

You love your family, of course you do.  But you especially love them in small doses and from a distance! 

If you're an introvert and aren't used to being in such close proximity to so many people, you can feel your batteries draining quickly.  It all feels claustrophobic and stressful and you want to get away. 

How do you cope​?  

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Christmas survival guide day 3- Being alone at Christmas - Jane Travis, Reflections Counselling Lincoln

Christmas Survival Guide Day 3: Being Alone At Christmas

Aah, the perfect family Christmas.  Twinkly houses, roaring fires, people smiling lovingly at each other whilst taking a family walk in Christmas jumpers after lunch.  

Oh wait, that was a Christmas advert.  Sorry.  

​When images of perfect families and great friends are all around us, what happens when you spend Christmas on your own?

Here are 14 suggestions just for you.

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Christmas survival guide day 1- Guilt free ways to spend less this Christmas - Jane Travis, Reflections Counselling Lincoln

Christmas Survival Guide Day 1: Guilt Free Ways To Spend Less This Christmas

Do you need to spend less this Christmas?

No matter what your income, Christmas can (and often does) strain the budget and despite knowing Christmas is on 25th December EVERY December, it can still creep up and take us unawares. 

January is a bleak enough month already without receiving a credit card bill that got out of hand, so how can you enjoy Christmas without breaking the bank?

Here's how to spend less this Christmas without feeling like scrooge!

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Setting boundaries - Reflections Counselling Lincoln - Jane Travis

Setting Boundaries

I was watching something on TV, and they said:

'The truth is like a toothbrush - you only share it with people you trust'.

And I thought 'Eew! I'd NEVER share a toothbrush!'

But some people do, and they don't mind doing it!

Which is fine, we're all different​, and we all have different boundaries.

The trick is KNOWING those boundaries and enforcing them, so when someone visits me and has forgotten their toothbrush, they will get a firm 'EEW NO!' when they ask to borrow mine!​

Knowing how I feel about sharing my toothbrush is clear, but how do I work out other boundaries in life?​

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